posted on October 28, 2019 by Kate Allure

Writing Sex…and talking about it

“I’m good at the naughty bits,” says my agent. It’s true. I love writing sex scenes. But initially I found talking about it publicly more difficult. Yesterday, I was sitting in a hotel hot tub and my sister mentioned to the couple sitting near us that I was an author. Which inevitably led to questions about what I write…romance. Which led, as it often does, to me needing to tell complete strangers that I write erotic romance. And, in the past that made me uncomfortable.

Yesterday, the resulting conversation was engaging and fun, and after they promised to buy my book, Seduced (the first in my new London Sex Club novels), I realized something new…

I’m no longer embarrassed at all to talk about sex with total strangers. Talk about my most personal sexual beliefs with people I know nothing about and, therefore, know nothing about how they’ll react. As I mulled that over today, I realized that it’s because I truly believe what I say about my erotic romance writing and about a woman’s right to choose their sexual identity.

Here’s the gist — the idea I hope to impart to anyone who expresses curiosity about my erotic prose:

I love to write about women exploring their sensuality and sexuality. I believe and try to convey in my stories that women, today, can be whatever they want in life, and that no one — parent, lover, spouse, or even children — has the right to put “baby in a corner,” as Patrick Swayze said in one of my favorite movies, Dirty Dancing.

At the heart of this, and the kernel of many of my plots, that women can be incredibly successful in their public life, be leaders of industry and of men, but in their sexual life they may be less successful. It may be the result of nothing more than bad luck, but sometimes it’s because what they want, need, or secretly desire in the bedroom is radically different than everything they’ve worked so hard to achieve.

Take my latest novel, Seduced, in which the heroine is a high court judge appointed by the Queen of England, herself, to a very prestigious post. She’s worked her butt off to get where she is and is rightly proud of her success. She’s just bought a luxury flat in a fancy building. She’s achieved social prestige. She even has a boyfriend, a baron no less, and it seems that a marriage proposal may be coming. But Victoria Whittingstall, Tori to her friends, isn’t fully happy. The intimacy she shares with her baron leaves her dissatisfied and she doesn’t know why. Is she expecting too much in life or maybe she’s frigid? Ultimately, Tori finds that she has vastly different needs sexually that she realized, that being a sexual submissive turns her on.

That realization and exploration is the basis for many of my plots. The woman realizing that she can be both a take-charge leader of men and in the bedroom find fulfillment submitting to a man or two. And that’s okay. The idea that women can be whatever they want and no one has the right to say what they can or can’t be. And my protagonists often have to struggle with accepting that duality in their nature.

Conversely, a woman could be fulfilled as a stay at home mom getting nightly dinner on the table and keeping a lovely home but discover that when it comes to sex, she’s a dominant—or more accurately a domme. Today, there are some who’ll look down on a woman choosing the traditional role of wife, and I can imagine there are husbands who would balk at letting his wife dominate him sexually. I haven’t written this novel yet, but I think it could make for a wonderful story of self-discovery and personal growth. So stay tuned…

And in the meantime, take a look at Seduced if you like BDSM stories set in a club so secret, so wicked, so posh, your every fantasy could be fulfilled.

~ Kate

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Kate Allure

Kate Allure

Kate Allure writes erotic romance novels that celebrate sensuality, sexual exploration and, of course, true love. She has two books out with Sourcebooks (PLAYING DOCTOR and LAWYER UP) about real women meeting handsome professional men as they go about their everyday lives---and the fun they have behind closed doors! She also contributes naughty novellas to Marina Adair's St. Helena Vineyards Kindle World. Kate's career as an author of steamy novels is the culmination of being a storyteller her entire life, writing plays, stories, and dance librettos throughout her childhood and later for community theater and dance companies combined with non-fiction writing while working for American Ballet Theatre and New York City Ballet. Beyond writing, Kate's passions include traveling and exploring all things sensual with her loving husband.

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